Putting your family on a routine gives your family structure and self-discipline. Yes it sounds horrific and sounds like hard work especially if you have children stuck in their lazy or ruling ways. I actually started this family routine about a year ago when I had found out my son was diagnose with ADHD. I have done some research as to what would help him at home and most of what I had read was to have an organized and structured home. It was giving my child a routine habit so he could remember what he needed to do and not be easily distracted. It also gave him a sense of accomplishments instead of him running into frustration of goals he would start and not finished. My son was 5 and daughter was 3 at the time but how I’d wish I could have done this since they were younger.
If you are just starting to add a routine or some structure to your family it might take some time but don’t give up, your children will start to get it by the second week. I am somewhat of a controlling mother but it’s not because I must have it my way, It’s simply because I would like my children to benefit from the rules, morals and structure I have in place and yes I do compromise with my spouse if he does not agree with my rules, morals and structure that I have for our children. I’m not that mother that freaks out because something was not listed in my planner or time schedule. I understand life happens and we all have to adjust after a bump in the road. I strongly feel that our children deserve to have some fun/creative/play time in the schedule. I use that time as a “reward time” if they are following rules, behaving or just done with everything such as a meal or homework. This will give them time to relax or be creative while I’m cleaning up the kitchen or a certain project I have going on for myself.
The benefits of having children on routines are amazing. It reduces half of the frustration in the house due to lack of organization. It stops the demands and tantrums from the children because they will already know snack, meal, cleaning, etc times in place as they will start to think its normal and stop putting up fights for their demands. It will help tremendously as the children will start learning to do things for themselves such as dressing up or brushing their own teeth without constant reminders. This will also help you build a better bond with your child as they see you less hurried and stressed as they will feel more comfort from you. I’ve notice I haven’t yelled or screamed since I’ve started our routine this has made our chaotic house into more of a loving home.
My schedule that works for me and my family and of course every family is different and the schedule should be too!
TIP: **Give a 10 minute warning before starting a new activity.**
M-F in the A.M
- Before the children wake up take a quick shower & get ready for the day.
- Pull the children’s clothes for the day and make lunches.
- Wake up children and have them use the restroom/brush teeth and dress for the day.
- Have them dress themselves while I make breakfast.
- Eating breakfast together finish first to do hair while they eat.
- Shoes and jackets on and off to school.
- Pick them up from school, run errand if need be with them.
- Go home and start homework with them.
- Start dinner while they are working on homework.
- Once HW is finished It’s dinner time.
- I have them help me clear table while I’m doing dishes. Once they are done they are able to go play an activity.
- Once I’m done I take one by one into the shower and they could continue to play they have until 8 p.m which is bedtime for them.
- At 8 p.m I lay them down, tell a story or sing a song and let them know I’ll be in the next room cleaning.
Saturday and Sundays
The same rules apply however they are not is school so I schedule family time in the early afternoon.
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